What the institution calls „processing“ is often a mixture of partial truths and the omission of essential aspects and facts or actions for those affected. This is the case in the German dioceses, it is no different in the United Kingdom. The perpetrators and their crimes are often swept under the carpet, cover-ups go unpunished, if not unnamed. It was no different when dealing with abuse and violence at the Croome Court residential school. In their book, Countess Sigrid von Galen and Rafael Viola report how the IICSA – „Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse“, which took place in London from 2015 to 2022, looked like, based on their own experiences in different capacities. Viola was a member of the committee that took over the „processing“.
Prof. Dr. Thomas Hanstein kindly provided me with his review of the book for this blog.
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Contact co-author Countess Sigrid von Galen: countessvongalen@gmail.com, https://twitter.com/instcrimjust
At Croome Court residential school, run by the Sisters of Charity of St Paul’s Apostle under the supervision of the Archdiocese of Birmingham, author Rafael Viola experienced the hell of his childhood as a little boy, according to his own harrowing accounts. He ran away from there several times, but was always brought back – against the express will of his parents, who incidentally were the only ones who believed his reports.
Viola and Countess von Galen also describe how the pupils could be abused undisturbed in the Croome Court hell: state authorities were systematically functionalized by church manipulation; due to inadequate, dysfunctional control mechanisms, they would have kept out of checking on the events of those in their protection and practically exposed the children and young people to abuse in church homes and schools. The only longer walks, for example, were always when an inspector had announced himself. He then inspected an empty house over tea and biscuits.
Countess von Galen and Viola report this and much more that is shocking in 21 chapters. Also, how Rafael Viola was only able to allow – and express – his memories of his childhood experiences in several church institutions at the age of 55. By that time his wife had already passed away. Thus, when reading the book – which is not easy – one is once again confronted with the fact that it can take more than half a lifetime before traumatizing experiences are ready to be processed by consciousness. Supported by his daughters and a number of friends, Rafael Viola has been unstoppable since then, and he found a powerful ally in Countess Sigrid von Galen.
After Viola was able to name his experiences, it was very important to him to contact other people affected and to build a network. After the IICSA was constituted in 2015, he was appointed „Ambassador for the Independent Investigation into Child Sexual Abuse“. Against the background of these insights, he now calls it a „crime per se“ that there has been „no adequate investigation to date“ (p. 12).
In his report on his experiences, he writes that he was willing to give a report to the IICSA on condition that he could present it in its entirety – citing the lack of time, it was finally reduced to TWO minutes. Other victims were not even heard at all. Rafael Viola speaks of attempts at intimidation, manipulated assessors and playing for time, which is used again and again. Expectations were built up in order to disappoint them – whereby re-traumatisation was strategically taken into account.
Viola soon felt „used as an alibi survivor and figurehead“ by the IICSA (p. 14). In addition to the humiliations that those affected have to endure every day in a trial, he has – despite everything – not received any honest apologies from the church to this day. Empty excuses, which remained without consequences, left only – mental and physical – consequences for those affected. Just as Rafael Viola suffered a nervous breakdown and a heart attack at the end of the long process, after having to be hospitalized in the middle.
Countess Sigrid von Galen also sees in the fact that files in this context are partially locked until the year 2045, a far-reaching global network of perpetrators – controlled in Rome – and a correspondingly deep-seated perpetrator culture. Therefore, she calls for the lifting of any special treatment and the diplomatic immunity of the churches and their representatives. In a concluding satirical chapter, she dreams of a show trial against the popes, in which none other than Mary Magdalene appears as prosecutor.
Association while reading: Coincidence would have it that „Stealing Lives“ fell into my hands at the same time as the death of Sinéad O’Connor. The Irish singer, like Rafael Viola, has endured abuse and homes. With her – nevertheless – strong voice, she sang courage to many of those affected, maybe Rafael too. When the abuse tsunami rolled in Germany in 2010, she said to local activists: „Don’t go to the bishops, they will only hurt you again.“ This assessment is also confirmed by the experience report by Countess Sigrid von Galen and Rafael Viola. And the conclusion that only networking, a tough fight, perseverance and mutual encouragement lead to success.
“Stealing Lives” Child, Nec Laudibus Nec Timore Publishing,
London 2022
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